Top 5 Lessons I’ve Learned in 2017
I am a huge sucker for a good list. I think it all started from my childhood love of David Letterman’s Top 10 Lists. It also helps that I’m a pretty classic Type A and lists have kept my neurotic brain sane since I’ve been able to write.
So, what I’m trying to say here is… expect a lot more lists to appear in this blog, and I’m going to start it off with a classic “lessons learned” recap of 2017.
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1. I am worthy.
I’ve done A LOT of inner work this year. Did you just roll your eyes at me? I don’t blame you. “Inner Work” does sound awfully foofy and braggy. It is super important necessary work though. There is only so much you can achieve outwardly before your inner blocks go all, “Oh, hey. Maybe wait a minute here. You can’t actually do all this. You should probably just stay in bed for a straight 36 hours before so and so finds out that you’re a big fraud.”
Yep, I’ve definitely been there, and I’m guessing that you’ve had a few days like those yourself because imposter syndrome is universal and comes up no matter your success level.
My biggest block was my deep rooted belief that I was unworthy. That something was fundamentally wrong with me, and I would constantly overachieve and people please to try and prove my worthiness. A large part of my feelings of unworthiness stemmed from really poor body image, which bled into all other areas of my life. I finally took the big step to heal my relationship with my body by signing up for The Body Course with Annika Martins and it really cemented my inner worthiness. Not if I do ________ or look like _______, but just for being. I wholeheartedly recommend this course to every woman. Annika is offering the course again in January 2018, so sign up for it when it is announced! Putting the work into the course will improve all areas of your life.
2. The term for the “Baader-Meinhof” phenomenon.
I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had about this phenomenon this year, and I just learned the term the first week of December! Saying, “you know, the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon” is going to save me so much time (not to mention make me sound much less like an idiot) instead of saying “you know, that thing where you hear of something once and then you keep seeing it everywhere?”.
Thank you to Jodi Flodstedt for adding this term to my vocabulary!
3. Money is not a taboo subject.
Money is a beautiful thing that makes this world go round and pays for lovely things like medicine, food, and most importantly, my Netflix subscription. Everyone is thinking about it and it is not impolite to talk about! Sure, there are are impolite ways to talk about it (“You’re charging that much?!”), but that’s true with any topic in life (“You have black hairs above your lip. Do you not know that?” While at the Sephora counter on my birthday. Thanks, Mom! And yes, I did know that I have the tendency to grow moustache hairs. I try and keep on top of them, but they are stubborn SOBs).
Anyways, back to the topic at hand, money. Like lady moustache hairs it’s one of those subjects that you’re supposed to quietly deal with in the background and never discuss in public. 2017 changed this for me and it came perfectly packaged in The Money Vault course with Tarzan Kay. Tarzan is one hell of a copywriter and business women who knows her stuff. I love talking about money now, and I was the person who would rather discuss her moustache in public at Sephora than bring up the subject before.
Money is only sleazy if you make it sleazy. You’re absolutely allowed to make what your work is worth, and yes you can want to make a difference in the world while also wanting to get paid (the two are definitely not mutually exclusive. Oprah is a good example of this, y’all).
4. That following/unfollowing on Instagram is a thing.
How is this a thing? Just no. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
5. Always trust your gut.
So much advice is offered in this world. Some good, “No, don’t have a nap at 8pm. You’ll be up all night.” and some bad, “You should make a green cheesecake, so you can eat it without the guilt.” It’s your job to filter through it all and follow what is best for you. If something doesn’t feel right to you, it’s probably not right for you. Case closed. No matter what anyone else says. So, yes, definitely go out there and get the advice of others (I’m all about that), but always trust your gut when it comes to the final decision.